My favourite piece of writing* in pretty much all of literary history is the poem â€˜If’ by Rudyard Kipling. There’s something about his admonitions to his son that speaks to my very heart, and the phrases:
â€œIF you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;â€
seem so apt for parenting. But sometimes remaining calm seems practically impossible.
I’ve written little bits and pieces about gentle discipline in the past, but it is not an art I’ve entirely mastered yet Â – to my great shame and sadness â€“ but it is one I’m working on. But I do realise that being a gentle parent requires something massive: peace.Â Gentle discipline and peaceful parenting go hand in hand, in my view, and I struggle to see how I can separate the two.
Amy Phoenix is a gentle yet direct parenting guide, healing facilitator, and mother of four dedicated to sharing insights and practices to transform doubt, frustration and anger, heal the past, nurture conscious relationships, and experience the peace of the present.
Her eBook, Creating Family Harmony from the Inside Out, is available free from Peace for Parents.Â She describes parenting and awareness through the metaphor of the â€˜whole body camera’ with the photographer being yourself, and how you can make adjustments on your perspectives, focus, and so on, and how those can help your parenting.
The eBook also includes a number of step by step lists on finding your way to peace, peaceful conflict resolution, and a â€˜spiral staircase’ of parenting.
I am very much the kind of person who explains thoughts and ideas by use of visual imagery, and I think Amy is too, which is why her book appeals so much to me.
I recommend you set aside an hour or so to read it, and hopefully it’ll bring peace to your parenting and your home. I know I am hoping for that as I try to implement it too.