Breastfeeding is one of the most enriching, amazing things I’ve ever done. It’s also one of the hardest at times and often requires a dedication and commitment I didn’t know I had. I’ve often said that support is absolutely essential to a successful breastfeeding relationship, and where you find that support can make or break where you get in your breastfeeding goals.
(This post is not about formula feeding or formula feeding mothers. If a woman chooses to formula feed, that is her prerogative. If she has no choice due to misinformation, or booby traps, that’s another story.)
Where you find your support is essential to your success.
I sat in a class earlier this week listening to mothers talk about advice they’d been given by their doctors on a specific health issue. Every single one of them had received different advice, and some of it was flat out contradictory.Read more: Finding Supportive Breastfeeding Supporters
I loved packing my bags and boarding the plane for England. My family weren’t there to see me off, since they were living in Malaysia. When they left Malaysia and eventually immigrated to Australia, via a few years back in South Africa, I was already married and living in England.
Our parents met over coffee in a restaurant a 12 hour flight from where we were sitting at our desks working. We were already married, so the pressure was off. We’ve just always been together, now. Together, alone.
Read more: Forging A Village In The Absence Of One
I mentioned yesterday about a post written by Dagmar Bleasdale, and I am mentioning it again today as the favourite post I’ve read this week.
While the point of the post was more about bloggers, brands and the undermining of breastfeeding by formula companies, that wasn’t what struck me about it. But there were so many poignant points in the post that really resonated with me.
Read more: Friday Favourites – More Thoughts On Support
I am unapologetically pro-breastfeeding: I think it is absolutely normal and everything else is sub-standard. But I am also passionately pro babies being safe, and when a mother cannot or chooses not to breastfeed her child, or for whatever reason makes the decision to formula feed, I think it is essential that she is equipped to do so safely.
Read more: Guidelines for Safe Formula Feeding
As a species, women are quite hard to understand. There, I said it.
We fill the complete spectrum with our differences, yet at our basic core, we are not all that dissimilar. We all have basic needs of love, acceptance, belonging and so on.
Why, then, do we bash each other, berate each other’s viewpoints and pile on guilt where extra isn’t needed?
Read more: Said the Bitch to the Cow