Eco Camp UK – Real Family Camping

I love camping. There’s something about sleeping under canvas that just works for me. Sure, I get home dirty, exhausted, and with a sore back, but the peace of being outdoors, effectively, is well worth it. Except in most camp sites in the UK, camping doesn’t even begin to hit the spot. A field with more people per square meter than my overpopulated street? Nope, that’s not camping. 

I miss the trees, the  secluded spots, the open fires, things that just aren’t synonymous with the UK camping experiences I’ve had. Till we discovered Eco Camp UK.

Based in East Sussex, they are very secretive about their location. Almost annoyingly so. They’ll give you GPS co-ordinates to get you there, but if your satnav doesn’t take coordinates and your phone doesn’t have data signal in the area (there’s not much 3G cover in the surrounding area), you’re a little screwed. But never fear, a phone call to the ranger and he’ll give you directions, if you didn’t get that part sussed before leaving home.

On arrival at Eco Camp UK, you will park your car in an alcove in the trees, before being met by the warden and walked – walked – to your tent. If you’ve brought your own supplies, there are wheel barrows in the car park for you to carry your things to the camp site. It’s a lovely walk down to the camp site, only about five minutes for most people. For a mama with two smalls about 10 minutes.

We stayed at the Eco Camp UK for four days, and over the course of that time, discovered spots with already set up Yurts all around. They’re so nicely hidden, it’s lovely.

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 See the rough location on the Mamaventurers map





Praise Vs Encouragement – Encouraging Words For Kids

A new Facebook follower,Kelly Bartlett , recently caught my attention when I saw her title as ‘writer’. I followed her profile till I found a book she’d written, Encouraging Words For Kids. I then found it on Amazon for Kindle and read it and it was so good, I want to share it with you. (Click here to find it on Amazon UK and here for Amazon US*)

Update 2017: The book doesn’t seem to be available on Kindle anymore. You can find it here for Nook or here for iTunes.

First, let me explain why I’m awestruck by this book.

I’ve never understood the point of people who don’t praise their children. I’ve always thought it a bit cold, and mean-spirited, and to be honest, quite damaging. Encouraging Words for Kids explains the whole ‘no praise’ philosophy so incredibly well, and rather than being a difficult study in human development, it offers alternatives and is so practical in it’s presentation, I find myself quite taken aback by it. Honestly, if all things parenting could be laid out so clearly, there would be a whole lot less unhappiness between parents!

The book consists of about 35 pages, and is super easy to read, so it won’t take long, doesn’t include a lot of unnecessary waffle, but is straight to the point and informative. Each chapter explains the why, and then it offers suggestions of phrases you could use, and finally, a real life example of an actual interaction between a parent and child, which I found really helpful.

Encouraging Words For Kids

The amazing thing for me is that while I was reading it, I started putting it into practice with three year old Ameli, and guess what? It really worked! Ameli often starts things – craft projects, playing games and so on, and just as often ends abruptly, a few minutes into playing: especially if I comment on how good she’s being and how well she’s playing on her own. I thought that it was the fact that I was drawing attention to my not engaging with her at that time that made her stop, but now I realise that’s not the case. In this particular example – similar to one in the book – Ameli was busy drawing a train. She drew the wheels and showed me her picture. Rather than my usual “that’s good darling”, cueing the end of her drawing I said something like, “Those are enough wheels for a very big train. What else do you think a train needs?”

As I understand it, she saw that I was interested, she saw that I had noticed what she’d done well, and she was able to think for herself what else the train needed. She came back each time after adding something to the train, but she eventually was talking to herself, saying things like – I think the train needs a whistle, and I think it needs a chimney.

I was awestruck how well it had worked and how much my first attempt had gotten out of her. And she was so proud of her train in the end too, and when she believed she was finished with it I was able to say how much I liked her train (rather than just ‘that’s nice’ or ‘well done’ to an unfinished set of wheels.)

Encouraging Words For Kids points out one of the problems with praise being temporary, short lived and that it creates in a child the need for constant affirmation, rather than being able to find approval of their actions within themselves.

“Simple praise feels good in the moment, but to have a long lasting effect, it must be constantly provided”

In contrast, encouragement communicates “unconditional acceptance between parents and children and have long lasting value.

As I’ve said before, I’ve never understood why you wouldn’t want to praise your child’s actions, but I realised in reading Encouraging Words For Kids that it’s not about that at all! Rather, its about making the praise have longer term effects.

 “After all, that’s why he’s showing you his achievements. It’s not because he needs an evaluation of his work, it’s because he’s proud of himself. So focus on his pride – not yours”

I think Bartlett allays all my fears about not praising my children, and sums the whole crux of why encouragement over praise is so important up in two paragraphs:

“By opting for encouragement over praise, you’re not ignoring your children’s accomplishments or communicating that they don’t matter. Encouragement is simply about keeping your responses focused on a child’s efforts and feelings as opposed to the outcomes of the behavior.

Encouraging words not only reassure kids during times of success, but also in times of disappointment. Instead of looking to a parent for affirmation, kids are able to decide how they feel about themselves and what they need to do. Their failures and successes, as they should be, are about them and not anyone else.”

There are so many paragraphs from this book that I could share with you, but I think I’ll leave it there for now. What I will tell you is that it has entirely changed my perceptions on praise, and has explained an entire theory in a very easy to read, 35-ish page book, and halfway through reading I’ve been able to identify changes to make, implement those changes, and immediately see results in my three year old.

The only negative I can point to with Encouraging Words For Kids is that it’s only available for Kindle at the moment. It really needs to be available in print form too because in my view, it really deserves a wider audience. ( You can download Free Kindle reader Apps for your phone etc though)

If you’re able to read it via Kindle or any of the Kindle Apps, I’m pretty confident, even though we’re all different parents with different views and different circumstances, that it’s among the best £2 /$3 you’ll spend in your parenting journey.

*At the current price of this book I will earn about 9p if you buy through this link, however this is a personal, unsponsored recommendation – I bought the book myself too.