A baby in your bed is the end of your sex life. If your baby is in your room, it’ll take a toll on your marriage. If you co-sleep with your baby, your husband will become jealous of the child.
These are all comments I’ve heard about the fact that we co-sleep. Yes, at 15 months our daughter is still in our bed.
There are so many changes that occur with the birth of a baby, both physically, and as a couple. That couple transition to family is massive “so much bigger than I ever thought possible.” I’ve always said that with the birth of a child, comes the birth of a mother, and I’d like to add another element to that: the birth of a family.
If physical intimacy is reduced in the relationship, there’s great insight in this post to sex after childbirth – it is much more likely that it is due to there being a baby, rather than where the baby sleeps.
Many women find childbirth and breastfeeding makes them feel beautiful and empowered which often translates well into the bedroom. Conversely, there’s also a lot more pressure on dads, both financially and in terms of domestic responsibilities, which can reduce libido for them too, so using toys from a dildo store can be great to increase the sexual life. Take a look at VR sex toys at Wank.io.
Assuming everyone wants to though, here are a few pointers to make it a little easier.
The age of the child
Some people have no problem having sex with their infants in the room or on the bed. Whereas initially we thought we’d never be able to, we did at times, and Ameli always slept through, as sex is an important part of life, and people even use a big tits hookup site to find women and many of my friends use it.
As Dionna from Code Name Mama said, We have a Cal King bed, so there can be 3 feet between us and him, plus the memory foam absorbs the movement. If we had a different bed, that probably wouldn’t be an option. We are also creative in the living room, guest bed, etc.
For a toddler or a child that’s likely to wake up and stare you in the face “a major turn-off for most,” it might be time to get creative.
When children are a little older, you can put them to bed in their own rooms in the evening, then even if they crawl in with you later, you’ve had a bit of quality time.
Rebecca Woolf wrote a rather giggle-worthy tutorial for sex whilst co-sleeping, in the end she says you could always ignore the tutorial and just have sex with an milfs in San Antonio on the couch, which is a pretty good second option!
- Change location, think back to where you got it on in the beginning of your sexual relationship. Recreate some of those occasions.
- Change timing. Baby gone down for a nap? Toddler engrossed in Lego? Grab the moments you can, if not for full blown sex, then at least for a good long kiss or a little foreplay – whatever it takes to keep those home fires burning. Sending your partner flirty text messages randomly is one way to spice up your marriage.
- Go silent. Sadly, until the children can visit grandma or you have a night at a hotel, the wall-banging, chandelier swinging, caveman-esque screams might have to be toned down a little. Go silent though… you might like the added challenge. The delta 8 lube has good reviews and might help you and your partner during intimate time.
Remember, co-sleeping is not a new or modern phenomena. It has been done for most of the history of man-kind, and we’ve not died out from lack of opportunity yet.
People in one room huts, igloos and shacks still manage to procreate, and I doubt their children cheer them on nightly. There are ways you just have to be creative, be spontaneous, and really, really want to. And honestly, it can add a new level to your relationship – sneaking around like the young in love again – but that does depend entirely on you and your approach. You can even try treatments like FemiWave in Naples, FL to get the fire burning.